Monday, November 15, 2021
The Woman in the Backseat
Monday, October 25, 2021
Sorry I Missed You Goes to Russia!
Last week, my Russian publisher sent me the proposed cover and promo text for their translation of Sorry I Missed You—or, as it'll be titled over there, Sorry, But I Miss You.
This might be one of my favorite parts of publishing. It's super fun to see your work described in another language, what elements of the book they pull out to put on the back cover, how they translate the title—your own name made of symbols you don't understand.
I posted the cover on Instagram and some friends wanted to know about the behind-the-scenes process of book translations and foreign rights from the author's perspective. It's very long and complicated and involved, so I thought it deserved a whole blog post. Are you ready? Here it is:
So first of all, you sit there and wait for an email from either your agent or your publisher (depending on who holds your world rights) to say that someone wants to buy your book and translate it into another language. And then you sit there and wait for a contract to sign. And then you sit there and wait for the foreign publisher to send you the cover and promo text. And then you sit there and wait for your pub date, which will likely be a surprise (they might tell you which month they're considering, maybe). And then, someday, you'll see your book on Instagram or someplace and go, Oh, hey, it must be out there now! and you'll get some physical copies in the mail, if that's in your contract, and you won't be able to read them but you'll put them on your shelf and say to yourself, "Neat!"
Phew. Lots of work. Very grueling.
Are you interested in seeing the promo text? Sure you are!
“Three women. Each has an intimate question.
One letter - it contains all the answers. Who will get it?
Larry inherited a mansion, but in order to live in it, you need to follow a bunch of strange rules. For example, not listening to modern music or planting flowers nearby. Since Larry is already full of problems, he decides to rent the house.
It is occupied by three women, Maud, Sunnah and Mackenzie. It soon turns out that each of them had a person in their life who disappeared without explanation.
Therefore, when they find a tattered letter in the mailbox, where only one thing is clear - they want to meet with someone in a coffee shop - everyone hopes to see a "ghost" from their former life.
But Larry is not interested in this, he has a lot of other concerns, and he is also convinced that ghosts, and real ones, have settled in the attic. Anyway, in their usually quiet city, something amiss is going on. Someone threatens to smash the gallery where he works. There is certainly no time for mysticism!"
Is this a good time to mention that, with Halloween just days away, Sorry I Missed You has ghosts in it but is not too scary for wimps like me who don't love being toooooo too scared? Because, contrary to the Russians' promo text, there is certainly time for mysticism, and the time is certainly now. So if you or someone you love wants a Halloween-appropriate read that won't keep you up at night, you know, I'm just going to drop some buy links here. (I don't really hustle much, so please bear with me when I get the urge...)
Thursday, October 07, 2021
Out of Gas—But Also, Some News!
The kids' bus was a half hour late this morning, and for a minute there I thought it wasn't coming at all. Which would be fine if it were Monday or Wednesday or even Friday, but not today.
Not. Today.
Today is one of two days I have, every week, where both kids go to school, where I have a glorious seven and a half hours of alone time. Where my house is silent, except for the occasional sound of me talking to...well. The appliances, mostly. (Don't pretend like you've never told your coffee grinder to hurry up or accidentally apologized to the fridge when you banged your toe into it on your way past.)
If you're a mom who works from home, you know how valuable seven and a half hours can be. You know how much time that is and also how little time that is, how helpful it is and how greedy it makes you, how it's never enough, no matter how much it is—like a serving of lasagne. Yes. Seven and a half hours is exactly like a serving of lasagne.
Anyway, the bus came, much to my utter relief, and I put my kids on it and I waved at them through the window as they disappeared down the street, and I went into my house and I yelled, "HALLELUJAH" because that is now part of my daily routine on Tuesdays and Thursdays. I made coffee and baked one of those pre-baked-but-not-all-the-way croissants and I sat at the kitchen table and smiled at the wall. Alone with my appliances and thoughts. At last.
Oh no! My thoughts!
That's the problem lately. My thoughts.
I used to really enjoy being alone with my thoughts. Even when they weren't particularly positive, I still enjoyed the room to hear them out, move them around, write them down. Often, that would lead to little bursts of creativity, and I could take the things I was thinking about and put them into fictional characters' heads and build stories around them.
But one day I stuck the key into the ignition of my brain and it made a sad little trying noise but wouldn't turn over. No sparks. No interesting thoughts, nothing inspiring, nothing creative.
It's probably a combination of a lot of things, and I've been troubleshooting in my head—is it the pandemic? Is it the lack of quiet time? Did I grow out of creativity? (Is that a thing?)
I think I've figured it out though: the thing it boils down to, mostly, is that I am more creative when I believe in myself, cheesy as that sounds. I'm more creative when I take myself seriously, as counterintuitive as that sounds. I am more creative when I think of myself as being creative—which, come on, brain. How do you manufacture a feeling about the way you are when you're not that way?
The thing is, I have never felt less sure of myself, less confident in my writing ability than I have since publishing that first novel. That was when the brain ignition thing happened. I don't know if this is a super common writer thing or what [feel free to weigh in if this applies to you] but it's not something I anticipated. I always thought that getting an agent would make me feel like a 'real' writer, and then I would never struggle with self-doubt again. And then I got an agent and struggled with self-doubt even harder and thought that getting a book deal would be the thing that legitimized me in my own brain. Then it was actually holding a physical copy of the book, and then it was selling another one (because maybe the first book was a fluke?). The goal posts move so fast it's like they're on wheels, and I am realizing that I'm probably just going to feel, always, like I'm not a real writer, unless I can figure out a way to make myself less dependent on my feelings about myself.
Which...help.
ANYWAY. That's a problem I'm having. And I have to confront it every time the kids leave me alone in my house to go to school. Which is probably not a bad thing? And until such a time as my thoughts become friendly and creativity-sparking again and I learn to rely less on external validation, I am trying very hard to celebrate the milestones that give me even a temporary feeling of being "a real author." The proverbial equivalent of taking a taxi since my car is out of gas. This week, it's this:
Sorry I Missed You was translated into Estonian and is now on sale there! And if you click on the screen shot above, it'll take you to an article or announcement or something of the sort which I can't read because it's not in English. Hopefully it doesn't say, "Suzy Krause is a big phony and not a real author."
...
...hopefully.
Thursday, September 09, 2021
Jeg Elsker Deg
Tuesday, September 07, 2021
The Voicemail
Wednesday, July 14, 2021
A Lesson to Share
I was sick this past weekend! It was so weird! Where did it come from? (Costco, I think, actually, come to think of it.)
Pre-pandemic, Sully and I used to catch colds every month or so. It was fairly predictable and, in retrospect, maybe a sign that our immune systems suck? But this past year we've been cold-free and loving it. I know a lot of people are like, "Burn the masks! Bring back the handshake! Let's lick stuff!" But honestly, I'll be pleased as punch if I don't have to touch strangers anymore, if I could minimize the number of times a person literally hands me a virus that's going to knock me out for four days. What even are handshakes? And why? Let's normalize warm, effusive, full-upper-body nods and believing people when they say it's nice to meet us without having to shake parts of each other's bodies to affirm it.
Anyway.
My first instinct, upon realizing that the tickle in my throat was real and not, once again, my overactive imaginary-symptom-amplifying imagination, was to get a covid test. It was negative, which made sense. I'm first-dosed, I'm conservative with my in-person visits, and the community numbers are super low. It's a regular old common cold which, like I said, I probably picked up at Costco. I'd forgotten how rotten common colds are though; I've forgotten how to tough them out. I've forgotten how your head gets so close to feeling like it's going to break open and how claustrophobic I get when I can't breathe out of my nose. Like I almost wish my head would break open so I wouldn't feel so confined inside of it.
I also feel like this past year has turned the cold into a creepier thing than it ever was before. It's like I always thought of the cold as a cheesy 90s movie villain—bumbling, disgruntled but not evil, easily foiled after a couple of hours of setting up the appropriate traps (liquids, naps, vitamin whatever)—but now it's gotten more sinister in my mind. You just hear story after story of, "I had a cold, and it felt like a normal cold, and then it was COVID AND I COULDN'T BREATHE AND I SPENT THREE MONTHS IN ICU ON A VENTILATOR" and I guess, after a year and a half of that, we're all primed to think that a tickle in a throat is a big huge hairy deal.
Anyway.
Scarlett, who is four and hadn't seen me sick in, like, a year and a half, literally didn't remember what "being sick" even meant or what it looked like. She kept eyeing me, bewildered and skeptical, asking me to explain myself. Demanding it. "Why do your eyes look like that?! Why do you sound like that?! Did you swallow a jalapeño without chewing it?! Can you stop doing that [coughing]?!"
Sully was a bit more sympathetic, but he is still seven years old and his sympathy isn't as helpful as, say, Barclay's sympathy. I woke up on Friday morning to the sound of clattering and shuffling in the kitchen, and I slowly became aware of two little voices discussing butter—specifically, how to soften it.
"We could put it in this bowl and pour boiling water onto it?"
"We could blow it with a hair dryer?"
"We could put it in the oven?"
Sully had, apparently, decided to make me breakfast in bed. He had enlisted Scarlett to help him, and they had a stack of magazines, all flipped open to the recipe pages. They had narrowed it down to Very Berry Smoothies and Candy Cane Christmas Cookies and then, because they are 7 and 4 and nothing if not ex-treeeeme-ly practical, decided on the cookies. Heartwarming, TO BE SURE. But that is how I ended up baking myself cookies at 7 AM on a morning where I was so sick I could barely see straight and eating them even though all I wanted was warm honey water.
I just kept thinking to myself, "This is very cute, and it's a story I'll tell Sully when he's older and we'll laugh about it together and it'll be good for our relationship and stuff."
Anyway.
The next morning, I sprained my neck (just existing, nothing fancy; I am a very tense person and if I get stressed out I sprain my neck, it's fun). If I thought I couldn't move before that, I really couldn't move after. So I spent the rest of the weekend on the couch, in the bed, and on the patio furniture. Finished two books and started two books (I am, suddenly, a person who has about five books on the go at a time). Did a lot of Sudokus. Did a lot of just laying there staring up at the trees. Watched a thunderstorm roll in and out. And now I feel better—but not just physically. I feel rested mentally in a way I haven't in a very, very long time.
So maybe that's the upside of getting sick—the laying down and chilling out. There's probably a lesson to be had about laying down and chilling out even if you're not being forced to by your crappy immune system so, here, I pass this lesson along to you. Go outside. Lay down. Chill out. Stare at the sky as though you physically cannot move.
Go! Now!
And then bake yourself some cookies. Sully's got a good recipe he can share with you.
Monday, June 14, 2021
Call Me Garden Girl! Call Me Plant Person!
Plant people: I get you now. It's fun. I see it.
Years ago, a friend brought me a succulent. I didn't know how to take care of it and I told her that and she said to me, "It's okay! These are hens and chicks and they're impossible to kill. You don't have to be good at plants. Just water them sometimes, and that's it."
I got excited. I had never, ever, not ever, not once, been able to keep a plant alive in my house. Or outside of my house, for that matter.
Exhibit A: The Garden.
The lady who lived here before us kept an immaaaaaculate garden. She was, like, really into it. She left me a binder full of details about it—what the plants were called and what they wanted and how I should, what's the word you garden people use, tend them.
Well, I destroyed that beautiful garden. Decimated it. Enjoyed a few years of dazzling, fragrant blooms, and then watched stupidly as the whole thing fell into ruins like an old Scottish castle. A few of the lilies still poke their heads up, year after year, cautious and pessimistic, but they're ghosts of their once glorious selves. Straggling up through the dirt like zombies, mourning over their lost kingdom, hopelessly beholding the dandelions that have begun to advance across the sparse lawn toward them. I am fairly certain they're hostile, the lilies; I think they know I'm the problem, think I should fix it all and banish the weedy dissidents, restore the flowers to their rightful place as illustrious rulers of the block, just as their previous gardener would have done, but, you know. Alas and alack and everything.
So anyway, the hens and chicks. I thought to myself, sure, I couldn't manage a whole garden, designed and grown and cared for by an older woman who had, no doubt, years of experience and knowledge under her belt and years of dirt under her fingernails. But a tiny clay pot of hens and chicks? I could probably—
It was dead within the week.
So I...gave up? The other option was to buy one of those ridiculously big books about gardening and try to learn how to fix the problems, and I didn't have time to do that. Giving up is always the easiest thing. I did buy some very realistic-looking fake plants to hang over the piano, and one of my more planty friends congratulated me on them, thinking they were real. A win!
But then.
I met this person on Instagram who lives in my neighborhood and they offered me a little houseplant (thanks, Steph!). I almost said no, because I felt bad in advance for killing it. But then I thought about how much I wanted that particular plant.
It was very cute.
So I said yes, and she brought it over and gave it to me and I put it in a place of honor and respect in the kitchen windowsill and whispered to it, "I'll try so hard to keep you alive but you're going to have to be pretty forgiving."
I think the plant understood, because it has now been three weeks and one day and the plant is not dead. THREE WEEKS AND ONE DAY AND THE PLANT IS NOT DEAD.
Furthermore, the plant is getting bigger and making more leaves. I'm no expert, but I think this means I am taking such good care of it, that I am doing it exactly right.
So suddenly, after three weeks and one day of doing it exactly right, I'm just really super overconfident. I went and bought seeds and I'm growing vines for my fence on the windowsill and I'm nurturing a brand new apple tree in the backyard and I planted flowers in the front...I am a whole new lady. I get excited to come home and look at dirt because what if something sprouted something? What if something bloomed? What if something grew?
And I think there's a moral to the story, and I think the moral is that it's okay to decide that you hate something and that it's not for you and that you never want to give it the time of day and that the thought of it makes you tired and grouchy but then to decide on a whim and for no particular reason that actually it's your favorite thing EVER and is, in fact, your entire personality now.
Friday, May 07, 2021
Stuck in a Loop
This morning I read an article in The New York Times titled,
Heads Up! A Used Chinese Rocket Is Tumbling Back to Earth This Weekend.
Saturday, March 27, 2021
Manifesting Writing Tools
Friday, March 12, 2021
All My Last Things
If you're tired of people talking about what they were doing a year ago when This Whole Thing began, click away quickly. I love this conversation and I'm going in.
A friend asked me the other day if I could remember what it was: the last thing I did before the world shut down. What was my last outing, my last date, what was I doing the night before we found out the schools were closing and everything was cancelled?
I laughed, and laughed, and laughed. I snorted. I groaned. Because, yes, I could remember. I could remember vividly. And even if I couldn't, these things are documented on Instagram with dates and summaries included, shocking and adorable in their naiveté. Haunting, even. So incredibly on the nose, they almost feel psychic in retrospect.
I hereby present to you: All My Last Things: An Instagram Anthology
1. The Last Restaurant
It has officially been more than a year since I've eaten in a restaurant (we have, however, enjoyed takeout a LOT this year, shoutout to Vic's, Leopold's, the Lancaster, and Lakeshore). I'm trying to remember if there was a point where I realized we were going to have that option taken away from us but where it hadn't been yet, and if it crossed my mind to have one last hurrah. If it did, I didn't follow through on it, leaving the McDonald's on Park Street as my last real in-person restaurant experience, and this my last photographic keepsake of simpler in-person restaurant times:
2. The Last Declaration
On March 6, I sat and worked in a coffee shop for the last time. In my subsequent Instagram post, I declared to the world (or, the bite-sized portion of the world that reads my Instagram posts) that I would choose "this meek sun" over "sun that blares down on a tropical beach" every time.
Don't get me wrong, I still quite like this meek sun. But I do hereby publicly apologize to the blaring tropical sun: I didn't mean to anger you. Please let us have airplane rides again.
3. The Last Date
It was the beginning of March. Barclay's parents took the kids overnight so Barclay and I could have a belated Valentine's Day date. (Typing these words sends sharp pangs of nostalgia and longing through my chest like forks and knives—sleepovers at the grandparents' house? Be still, my weeping, shaking, temper-tantrum-throwing heart.)
What did we do with our one wild and precious evening? Did we eat in an actual restaurant (you already know the answer to that, don't you)? Did we drive to Moose Jaw for a night at the spa? Did we go to a concert, the theatre, improv night at the Artesian?
Oh heck no, not us. We decided to get creative. We decided to disrupt our status quo. We walked around the Cathedral Village—outside, away from other people. We shopped Safeway for Nicer Ingredients Than We Usually Buy and we made a gourmet meal in our own kitchen. Then? We stayed home and watched a movie. BLESS US.
4. The Last Family Outing
Last winter, the kids and I went snow clearing with Barclay as often as we could—provided the school schedule allowed it, provided we didn't have other plans—and it always felt like such a fun and special little family outing. The museum? Fine. The movie theatre? Never got around to it. Driving around in the car drinking coffee? Familial bliss. So that is what we did, the last time we could've done anything.
5. The Last Night
The crown jewel in my week of fantastic pre-pandemic decision-making. It was a Saturday night. Barclay had a friend over to listen to Slick Shoes albums in the living room, and I locked myself in the bedroom with snacks, a book, and my laptop for a luxurious evening ALONE. Because I was tired of people, events, going out, all that NOISE. I was so excited about it, so pleased with myself, and very determined to make this a regular thing—I remember saying to Barclay, "I should do this more often!"
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So there you have it. If anyone's wondering what brought this pandemic upon us, it was probably me. I tried to disrupt the status quo just a little and accidentally disrupted it all the way. Is there a moral to this story? Something about seizing the day. Or maybe it's a flagrant display of Murphy's law or the long-lost fourth verse to Alanis Morissette's Ironic.
Mrs. Girls Night Out
Wanted a night at home
She packed her sna-a-acks and drinks
And crawled into bed alo-one
She watched her TV shows
And she took a break
And when the world shut down she thought
I've made a big mistake
And isn't it ironic?
Don't you think?
Thursday, March 04, 2021
The Nightmare House and The Butter House
Monday, February 15, 2021
Jessikah & Keysha
Well hey! I'm just popping in to brag about a couple of talented people I know and love. These amazing women (who were about three years old maybe four hours ago, I swear) are my cousins (one from my mom's side and one from my dad's) and they've both put songs out into the world this month. I'm really proud of them. Writing a song is hard. Putting that song in front of other people is harder—but maybe it's easier when your voice is as beautiful as theirs?
I've shared both of these on Instagram but I'm sharing here too and I'll probably continue to plaster their music everywhere as long as they make it. And when this pandemic is over and they start playing shows I'm pretty excited to be their embarrassing older cousin who sits near the stage and knows all the words.
Jessikah, Keysha: You should collab. Love you both.
Tuesday, February 02, 2021
The Baby Stage
It was Sully's birthday a couple of weeks ago. I officially have a seven-year-old and a four-year-old in my house. I've been out of the baby stage for a while (we've given away the high chair, the baby gate, the crib, all that stuff) but I haven't really felt the distance from it until now. I guess, all this time, I've still been thinking of myself as a "new mom."
(I think of myself as a new mom but I also cannot imagine life without kids everywhere. I know, I only have two of them. What can I say? For some of you, "kids everywhere" is eight. Nine. Ten. Forty-five. For me, "kids everywhere" is...is two.)
I'm also well aware that seven years is nothing in the grand scheme of things, and that there are people reading this laughing to themselves and thinking, "Suzy, you are a new mom." Yeah, yeah, I know: time is weird, and old and new are super relative—not unlike "kids everywhere." But right now, in this moment, to me, I feel like I've stepped through an important doorway in motherhood, from being a new mom to being...I don't know. What is this room? What comes after New Mom, but before Seasoned Old-Hat MOM Mom? Because I'm not a MOM mom yet. I'm not fully a mother of school-aged kids, not a mother of fully-independent children, not a woman of leisure whose days are her own. And I don't do the things seasoned moms do—I don't carry Bandaids in my purse, for example. But I definitely feel more confident making decisions for these kids. I don't spend hours on Google every time they develop a weird rash or a fever. I've figured out what makes them tick and how to communicate with them and how to calm them down and how to make them laugh hysterically. To sum it up in the simplest way possible, I feel like I'm getting the hang of it.
Maybe this is a hallway? Maybe there's no name for it—but wow, I love it here. I keep saying to Sullivan that we're pausing time and he has to be seven forever, and he keeps shaking his head and telling me, "Mom. I'm going to be eighteen soon and I'm going to move out."
And I'm like, "SULLY DO NOT SAY THAT."
And he's like, "Don't worry, Mom. I'll come visit you. We visit your parents all the time."
(Which is categorically FALSE, especially in this, the year of our pandemic.)
I think the Exact Thing that marks the shift from that room to this hallway is that I have, like I said, a bit of distance. I can see the baby stage objectively from here.
The baby stage was really hard, and I spent a lot of it wishing we were past it but not feeling like I could admit that to anyone. Because when you're in that stage everyone (from the cashier at the grocery store to the woman who walks past you on the street) spends all their breath telling you that those feelings are wrong, and that you'll regret them later, and that you'll miss the baby stage intensely when it's gone. Ah, the countless lectures about cherishing and treasuring. If I had a nickel for every one I could buy the entire Jimmy Eat World discography. As though you cannot possibly love someone without also wanting them to stay exactly as they are forever and ever.
WELL GUESS WHAT.
I don't miss that stage. I'm thankful for it! I'm thankful to have experienced it, absolutely, and I'm even thankful for how hard it was. I miss a lot of specific moments from that stage. Sometimes I look at pictures and videos from a few years ago and marvel at how tiny the fingers were, how high the voices were, how long the snuggles were. From day one, I have loved these kids more than I could have ever imagined loving someone, which made the hard parts worth it, and there is, for sure, part of me that would pay billions of dollars to travel back in time for an hour to hold my sleeping newborn baby. I treasure those years in such a weird, paradoxical way. So much it hurts, but also, please don't send me back.
But this stage? With a four and a seven year old? I never want it to end. I miss it already. I'm no longer pushing through time; I'm leaning back into it with my heels dug in.
I guess I'm finally coming to understand that not being "a baby person" isn't a moral failure, it never made me a bad mom or meant that I didn't love these specific babies enough. And you're probably thinking, "Well duh," but for some of us it's not very obvious in the moment.
So anyway. Be careful what you say to the harried, sleep-deprived mothers of colicky babies, is maybe the moral of that rabbit trail.
And if you're one of those people who miss the baby stage, or are in it and loving it: I'm genuinely happy for you. That's really great. Some people are made for it, and I think that's cool. Isn't that cool?
I think it's cool.
Tuesday, January 19, 2021
My Timely Grandma
My mom told me the other day that my Grandma Enid* read my latest book twice—once to herself and then again, out loud, to my Grandpa. And then she called my mom and told her she was sending her 100 dollars. She was pre-ordering all of my future books.
If that isn't the sweetest thing you've ever heard, you get your money back. (Luckily, you never gave me any money in the first place, so.)
When I was in grade seven (or eight or nine) this same Grandma mailed me a clipping from her town's newspaper—it was one of those student spotlight things where they interviewed local kids and put their picture in the paper with their answers. The kid in the interview that week was a girl named Jessie, someone I'd met at camp one year and become best friends with, though my grandma couldn't possibly have known that.
The last question in the interview was, "Who is someone you want to be like?" and Jessie had answered "Suzy" and my grandma had circled this question and answer in red pen and drawn exclamation marks around it. Accompanying the clipping was a little sticky note that said something about how Grandma "just knew" I was the Suzy this Jessie girl wanted to be like. Like I was the only Suzy in the world, or at least, the only noteworthy, role-model-y Suzy in the world. At the time, I remember feeling particularly not noteworthy or role-model-y (I was in junior high, after all, and good self-esteem was allotted to only one or two people per grade in junior high), and that note was pretty timely.
As timely as pre-ordering all of my future books while I'm struggling very hard to even write said future books and wondering every day if there will ever be future books. How does Grandma Enid do that? The timely thing?
I'm digressing and digressing (for that is what I do best) but all this to say: There is one of two morals to this story (or maybe both):
1. Going out of your way to say something extra kind or encouraging is a good idea, because it might be more timely than you can imagine and/or:
2. I should call Grandma Enid this week and tell her I love her.
*This is also the Grandma who once sent me the obituary—just the obituary, nothing else, not even a sticky note—of famous piano player Anthony Burger when he passed away of a heart attack on a cruise ship, because she knew I had been to one of his concerts and quite liked it.
Thursday, January 14, 2021
My First Prairie Hurricane
I attended my first hurricane last night.
Okay, it wasn't a hurricane so much as a snowstorm—but it had hurricane-level winds, they said, topping out at 126 km/h. I believe them. It sounded like an airplane flying around the streets of the city, like something that could bust through your window at any moment. At around 11, a friend texted me a picture of a huge tree that had, only yesterday, been standing in their front yard, but was now resting contentedly on their bedroom.
I tried to go to sleep after that, but we have trees too. So I began to do that thing Barclay loves where I shake him awake every three minutes to run worst case scenarios and show him all of the terrible things I'm seeing on Twitter.
He loves that.
Eventually, though, he became harder to wake, and soon, even when I could wake him, he wasn't coherent, so I had to doomscroll alone.
But then! Something kind of delightful happened. I was scrolling through the #SkStorm hashtag on Twitter, where people were doing the usual storm Twitter thing—posting pictures of the damage they'd incurred so far and Tweeting at Sask Power that they were having outages. Then someone mentioned that they were starting to feel worried about their house blowing over, and someone else was like, "YEAH I'M TERRRRRRIFIED" and soon there were a whole bunch of local people (myself included) comforting each other and freaking out together and clucking our virtual tongues at the fact that our loved ones were sleeping through the storm of the actual century. It felt weirdly old-timey and small-towny, but in an on-liney sort of way.
The internet has not been a place of connection this year, not the way that it once was, but last night from about 11:30 to...2? 3? (I honestly don't know) it was, and that was nice.
I leave you with this screenshot from SaskPower's Twitter account—an important reminder that Christmas trees make great paper airplanes.
Tuesday, January 12, 2021
Villa Elaine
I found my lost Remy Zero CD—not that you knew it was missing. But it was, and do you know where I found it? Behind some books on my bookshelf. I shrieked. I'd thought it was gone forever, or that Scarlett had captured it and made it into a dinner plate for stuffies and I would find it buried at the bottom of her toy box in two years, covered in glue and animal crackers. Anyway. Rejoice with me, Internet Strangers! I'm listening to it right now, and it's all the sweeter after its long absence, after I thought I'd never hear it again. Villa Elaine.
I guess I could've just listened to it on Spotify or something, but it really does feel wrong to listen to anything recorded in the 90s on Spotify. Not when I've already experienced it on my $10 Varage Sale CD player, when I've already read the whole CD liner and have heard all the songs in their intended order with no ad breaks.
But listen. I'm not going to tell you not to listen to it on Spotify. But if you do, and if you like it, you should buy yourself a physical copy, and a $10 Varage Sale CD player. You could be as happy as I am right now.
Monday, January 04, 2021
A Sunny Winter Morning With Sullivan
I'm sitting at the kitchen table once again, listening to Sully do his schoolwork. I'd had this idea that it would be fun to sit with him and try to write a blog post while he worked on his weekly journal entry assignment (what am I, new?), but it turns out it's kind of difficult to construct coherent sentences while someone is sitting next to you saying, "THIS. T-H-I-S, this, this, this weeeeeeeekend—WEEKEND, W-E-E-K-E-N-D, was fun, F-U-N. This weekend was fun, this weekend was fun...hmm....what did we even do this weekend? Mom, what did we do this weekend? I need four more sentences..."
Oh well. I'll look back on this in ten years, as one does, and think to myself, "I miss those sunny winter mornings, sitting at the kitchen table across from six-year-old Sullivan, listening to Nick Drake and quietly writing together, pausing every now and again to share a smile or a joke, him to ask me how to spell the occasional word, me to let him know how proud I was of his neat writing and his advanced sentence structure. I did my best writing in those special moments, too. His very presence sparked my creativity. Now I can't get two words down because all I can think about is him speeding around town in that old car of his with no adult supervision..."
Is this what people mean when they talk about living in the moment—trying to capture that rosy ten-years-in-the-future feeling before you've left the present? It's just one of those phrases I've always heard that I thought I understood...but now that I'm thinking about it, maybe I never have?
I was about to say that I'm not even sure how to go about that, exactly, but then I realized that, even if it wasn't a conscious thing, this is actually part of the reason I like blogging and taking pictures so much—because if "trying to capture that rosy ten-years-in-the-future-feeling before you've left the present" isn't the most accurate description of blogging and taking pictures, I don't know what is.
Friday, January 01, 2021
2021
Okay, looking ahead now, because far be it from me to write a post about, I don't know, our basement renovation on the first day of a new year:
2021.
Never before (at least, never before in my lifetime) has a year been so universally, almost desperately, anticipated. Me? I feel...quietly optimistic, I guess. I feel like it'll still be a while until the vaccination is widespread enough to achieve that Back to Normal effect we're all craving, but it's pretty thrilling to think things are trending in that direction. I also feel quietly pessimistic, but that's fine.
It's strange, stepping into this new year. It's the first one in a while I haven't been looking ahead to a specific, year-defining personal Event. No book releases, no concerts or music festivals, no trips, no incoming (er...out...coming? I guess?) babies, none of those milestone-type things that inform the shape and speed and feel of the upcoming twelve months. And not only are there no big things, there aren't even very many little things. In-person school isn't guaranteed. There will be no weekly coffee dates in friends' living rooms, no trips to the museum down the street, no date nights at The Exchange or The Artesian. How will I know it's Tuesday and not Wednesday? Trick question: the answer is WHO CARES. Tuesday and Wednesday are the same now. Calendars are purely decorative.
I usually feel, at the start of a new year, like I'm walking into a framed building, like my job is to add the walls and windows and drywall. Paint it, decorate it, live in it. This year I'm just like, where are we building this thing? What, exactly, are we building?
...Are we building something?
2021 has no tent poles, no structure. I have arrived at the construction site, and the foreman is taking a nap in a wheelbarrow.
I've been seeing people all over instagram today "setting their intentions" and "choosing their word for 2021" and I'm one part Good for you!, one part I should do that!, and three parts LOL no.
Set intentions? For 2021? That's like going on a road trip through an uncharted wasteland and saying, "On our way through this uncharted wasteland, we're going to stop at McDonald's for Egg McMuffins." You don't know there'll be a McDonald's. Why set yourself up for disappointment?
Then again, maybe a trip through an uncharted wasteland is easier if you have something to look forward to, even if that thing may never actually materialize. Maybe that's the trick in a nutshell—to hope for a McDonald's as opposed to, say, a locally-owned coffee shop that roasts their own beans and has a nice, clean bathroom for you to use.
Or maybe you just go all out, set your expectations up by the moon, and practice being flexible.
So, okay, sure. I'll set some...intentions. (Goals, resolutions, whatever. People are very anti-resolution/goal these days, very precious about the exact wording here, but I don't get it and I don't care.) I'll make a few plans. Somewhere between McDonald's and the moon.
1. I would like to blog a lot more.
(I have completely forgotten how to write for fun, and this is making it very hard to write for work. Blogging is what made me love writing in the first place, so I'm going to cross my fingers that putting words down here, where it doesn't matter at all, will rekindle something in my brain. They say that's how it works. I hope they're right.)
2. I would like to finish this book I've been working on for two and a half million years.
(Item 1 should beget item 2, if they're right and if I'm lucky.)
3. I would like to pick up some other random hobby or skill, OR pick up an old one.
(Just something creative that isn't writing. I would like to make time for it and work hard at it. Maybe something I could include the kids in.)
4. I would like to read more books than I read this year.
(Barclay has become a major book worm this year and he read more books than me and I feel insecure about it. This year: IT IS WAR—I mean, IT IS A CHANCE TO SPEND SOME COZY EVENINGS ON THE COUCH WITH A BLANKET AND A DECAF LATTE AND A GOOD BOOK.)
5. I would like to emerge from this pandemic once and for all and go...I don't know...to Winnipeg! Saskatoon! Calgary! I don't even CARE I just want to stay in a hotel and eat at a restaurant. Maybe hop on an airplane! I COULD GO TO TORONTO! I COULD RIDE THE SUBWAY. That's the dream, right there. I sincerely miss riding the subway.
(This feels closer to the moon than McDonald's.)
6. I want to use the caps lock key a lot less. I need to chill out.
7. Oof. That reminds me: I would like to spend a lot less time on Twitter feeling irritated at people. This morning, I saw a lady on there Tweeting about how she went up to a stranger in a bookstore and shamed them in front of their kids for the book they were buying and everyone on Twitter was like, "GOOD FOR YOU THAT BOOK IS STUPID AND THAT PERSON IS STUPID" and then someone was like, "Maybe you shouldn't shame people in bookstores for buying books you don't like" and she blocked that person, even though the person in the bookstore didn't have the option to block her when she shamed them for buying a book in a bookstore and I felt so upset about all of it even though it had nothing to do with me. But really, people are just going to be ridiculous on Twitter and I just need to learn to not go over there. Also, there I go with that caps lock key again.
8. Same as 7, but Facebook.
9. I want to learn how to do a mirror glaze on a cake.
(Watch out, all of my friends. You're going to start receiving so many crappily-mirror-glazed cakes from me in the coming months.)
10. I would like to drink less coffee and more water.
I could go on, but wow this is getting long. And, like, I'm not even taking breaks in between numbers; these are just flying out of me. This is either a sign that I have SO MUCH IMPROVING TO DO THIS YEAR, or that the whole blogging-to-remember-how-to-write-for-fun-again thing is already working.
Either way, happy new year, and talk to you soon.